This is a must-see video by my new favorite, Diane Strickland, MA, of Your Story is Safe Here. If you don’t have a lot of time, skip to 6:17 to hear how amazing we are, and why that made us a target for sex addicts. They chose us, we didn’t chose them!

In the video, this is how Diane describes wives of sex addicts:

• “antithesis of co-dependent”
• “strong”
• “incredibly intelligent”
• “capable”
• “huge capacity for commitment”
• “loving”
• “many interests”
• “lots of relationships”
• “successful careers”
• “good at managing families with passion and creativity”
• “competent”
• “independent”
• “dependable”
• “honest”
• “loyal”

I don’t know about you, but I needed to hear that. Diane helped me to remember who I truly am at my core – who I was before being systematically abused by a very sick man for so many years.

It’s pathetic that they chose us for these wonderful characteristics, then spent years tearing us down to keep us confused and off their dirty trail. It takes a very sick person to do that to a woman. Very sick, indeed.